In life, we will always come across different forms of negative connotation which makes us feel demeaning. Don’t keep things that don’t belong to you such as insult. The key point to remember in these desperate moments regarding the urge to return the favor to the respective individual should be kept on hold for a while.
We can always go ahead and handle such events in different ways depending on the situation but the few ways we handle such occasions are not appropriate and that’s just harming us and our mental health in every possible way either consciously or subconsciously. Such as the problem with the Put-down trick. However witty it maybe is that it tends to equalize us with our insulter, raising him up to our level and bringing us down to his. This gives him and his insult far too much credibility.
On the other hand, people who believe they are over smart are more inclined towards the Humour trick. This is an especially effective response for three reasons: it undermines the insult, it brings the audience (if any) on the side, and it diffuses the tension of the situation. One downside of humor is that it requires quick thinking. In contrast to all the methods that I have experienced so far ignoring the insulting is easier and, in fact, more powerful. For instance: Once one of my friends gave me a demeaned compliment and later on he came with an apology in a discussion to sort it. Instead of getting angry or accepting his apology, I replied, ‘I don’t remember being offended.’
Subtext: ‘You are so insignificant that I don’t even care to register your apology, let alone take offense at your insult.’
This may seem like a very weak response, but in many cases, it is actually the strongest response of all. When someone insults us, we ought to consider three things: whether the insult is true, who it came from, and why. If the insult is true or largely true, the person it came from is reasonable, and his motive is worthy, then the insult is not an insult but a statement of fact and, what’s more, one that is potentially very helpful to us. In general, if you respect the person who insulted you, you ought to give thought to the insult and learn as much as you can from it. On the other hand, if you think that the person who insulted you is unworthy of your consideration, you have no reason to take offense, just as you have no reason to take offense at a naughty child or barking dog. So whatever the case, you have no reason to take offense.
Last but not the least Anger – This is the weakest possible response and this for three main reasons. First, it shows that we take the insult, and therefore the insulter, seriously. Second, it suggests that there is truth in the insult. Third and most important, it upsets and hurts us—which can invite further insults.
So just be yourself, don’t take hard feelings to your head, or give them space in your life. Believe me, those F****** are not worthy.
Pardon profanity in my language, in case it offended someone. I have tried to put down all my experience and belief in utmost decorum for this platform albeit some people never fail to earn their piece of shit……..